You keep asking: Is this normal in a relationship? But you can’t figure out if the voice inside that says no is right, or if it’s you that’s the problem.
I help you trust that gut feeling again so you can stop blaming yourself and finally have relationships that don’t leave you exhausted, anxious, or confused.
My guess is you're struggling with at least one of these thoughts...
Maybe I’m too sensitive and shouldn’t be this upset.
If I could just communicate better, maybe they'll finally understand and change.
It’s probably just my triggers that make me overreact.
If I was more forgiving, maybe we wouldn't fight as much.
I know these thoughts because I’ve had them too.
But simply because you are asking these questions,
I am certain that it’s not you that’s the problem.
Or your communication style.
Or your “triggers.”
Or your expectations.
It’s them and their abusive behavior.
The subtle put-downs,
the manipulative “jokes,”
the way they twist your words until you’re the one apologizing.
That’s why you feel so confused.
But once you finally see it for what it is,
you’ll realize your gut was right all along.
And that’s when everything changes.
Hey, I’m Kensie.
I know what it’s like to feel confused in a relationship, to second-guess your reality, and to feel like no one really understands what’s going on.
I spent years in therapy, searching for answers. But instead of being validated, I was mislabeled.
I was told I was depressed—when really, I was being neglected.
I was told I was anxious—when really, I was living in covert abuse.
No one named it for what it was. And that’s what kept me confused.
So, after doing my own healing work, I became a coach—certified in complex trauma, coercive control, and covert abuse—so I could be for others what I so desperately needed.
Because people like us don’t need more labels.
We need clarity.
We need language.
We need someone to finally say, “It’s not you. It’s the abuse.”
Through a blend of mind and body work, I’ll help you:
Spot the subtle red flags of manipulation, neglect, and abuse so you can stop blaming yourself for what someone else is doing to you.
Rebuild trust in your body and your perception, so you can stop accepting harm and set firm boundaries without guilt.
Become confident in your needs and feelings, so you stop shrinking to please others and find relationships that feel safe, real, and fulfilling.
“My sessions with Kensie were very productive. I wasn’t sure what to expect, but our sessions brought to light ways to help me cope and truly start healing my trauma. I have direction and processes to use instead of feeling like I can’t control my reactions when my CPTSD reminds me of past experiences. She is very attentive, and they way she goes about educating is without judgement.”
“Kensie is attentive and has an awareness that I haven’t experienced when talking to anyone else close to me or professionally. She repetitively took the opportunity to bring awareness to my growth and ways I was doing things well. The trusting, supportive environment she created allowed me to connect with difficult feelings and make a discovery that has been holding me back.”
“Sessions with Kensie were a special gift to me. She is so encouraging and yet still realistic. Her love pours out in all she says. You know when she speaks that you have been heard. Wow, that is one thing abuse never gave me. A voice. Kensie encouraged me to dive deeper in my healing journey. To keep searching for answers, to not accept the status quo. She is that person you want to invite in to your life because she helps you to feel safe and heard and encouraged for healing growth.”
Work With Me
Book
If you’re just starting out, the very first step is understanding abuse — what it is, what causes it, and how to spot it.
My book Abuse Dynamics 101 is designed to help you do exactly that by giving you the core language and education you need to start.
Some of the topics inside:
Early red flags when dating
The abusive relationship cycle
Basic abuse facts and statistics
Effect of abuse
How to heal from abuse
Group
Inspired by the topics in my book, Relationship Reset, is an 8 week group program that goes even deeper into how abuse shows up in relationships, communication, and conflict.
Whether you’re just beginning or have already done some research, this is a great way to deepen your understanding, work with me live, and receive support from others who have gone through the same things.
(PS - The program includes a copy of my book!)
Coaching
If you’re ready to go beyond education or group work and into personalized healing, 1:1 coaching is best. This is where you get 50 minutes of my time focused only on you—your story, your struggles, your healing.
In these sessions, I use my S.E.L.F. model to help you find the root causes behind your current struggles, find your true self, and heal from the inside out so that change happens naturally, without force.
